Nowadays, the young, Gen Z generaton always seems to strive looking for the best life advice that could solve all their problems and promise them a successful, secure future. But the more I look into all these life advices, the more confused and muddled up my brain becomes.
At the end of the day, what is the best solution?
The best potion, drinking which, I can magically transform me and my life into something I admire myself? How do I find that potion?
And then I found the answer quiet unexpectedly.
The Absolute Noteworthy Life Advice I have Heard
So just last night I was listening to this podcast by Gary Vee about life advice to people in their 20s. It was originally a phone conversation between him and a college graduate named Taylor. Read the transcript here. The advice was to the point, concerning how all of them are eager to become millionaires at the age of 22 to 25 or 27, and how it’s not an achievable goal.
It just isn’t unless you come across as a phenomenal kinda person. Even then it is just hard, plain hard.
And I think it was the most eye-opening podcast episode I’d ever heard because even as I was lying in bed, trying to calm my thoughts, my mind was just left more awakened than usual.
I realised where I was going wrong until now. And it hit me hard. Really hard.
I was just one of those people who wanted to be rich and famous than most others their age and I was spending my time wishing about it rather than actually putting in the hardworking for it.
I had just been blinded so much by all the glory and glamour of that world and had forgotten that it took people a lot of sweating, and toiling work, and mental breakdowns to reach there. It took pretty much their whole lives.
It wasn’t going to take my my whole life, though. I had made up my mind about that.
Fortunately, the podcast speaker didn’t just end it at that. He spoke further of this issue.
The Thing All The Workaholics Have in Common
So, the thing is—so many of all those ambitious people are motivated by the end destination—the goal, and rightfully so, they should be. The image of the end goal in our mind is what keeps us pushing further and not giving up.
But we don’t just have to think about the reward—the sweet reward—and forget about the journey. Because knowing how far have we come is what makes it all the better.
If we are just motivated by the goal, being rich, famous, being that successful person we want to be, then once that goal is achieved, we’d feel lost without it. It’s true.
If we only just think about achieving success, that accomplishment, and we don’t come to love the work that it took to get there, then we’re going to feel lost once we actually achieve what we’d set out to do.
This happens because now that we have achieved success, and we don’t have any bigger, higher goals in mind, so what’s going to drive us forward?
(Because some of us always need something to drive us forward.)
This us why you need to keep the journey in mind, you need to chase the journey, the sweet journey, and only then will you be able to enjoy the destination.
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The Major Life Advice is The Secret of Being Patient
The secret is to not look how far you have come.
Don’t keep count.
Don’t work hard for one night or one early morning, and then become eager to see how much you achieved. If you start keeping track of all things you’re gaining and all things you’re losing, then you’ll run out of patience before you fully achieve what you wanted.
So either be a highly patient individual, who can work just equally well under the knowledge that nothing they’re doing is bringing any effect (yet), or the second option is to not keep track of your journey.
If anything bad happens, you’ll just feel discouraged and all motivation will drain out of you.
I used to do this. Honestly, I was an achievement-driven person, who always wanted to see how far up is my Pinterest profile, my Instagram page, my blog, my book sales (which, by the way, is self-published. Thanks for checking it out— Say Something).
So anyway, that was the earlier me. That earlier me has grown up and grown mature now.
So her views and her mindset has changed too. Now I’ve made it a point not to check my social media account the first thing in the morning (or the middle of the night, when I wake up accidentally).
Now I’ve simply told myself that I need to believe that it’s going to happen, and I need to work hard for it to happen. Most necessary of it all, I need to not lose my will or motivation along the way of it happening.
And guess what, in the end, it might just end up happening.
That’s the power of this.
You want something. You are driven by some desire, some motivation, and you chase it with all your will.
How awesome is that? It should be your life dream.
You life dream should be what you focus on.
The Toil That It Takes
Okay, so I frequently wondered about this question—if you don’t keep track of how far you have come, then what do you instead do? Like, wouldn’t that be dull? Just grinding and pushing and doing and not seeing any results?
So what do you do?
If you want to achieve something truly great, something phenomenal or epic, if you want to become successful or famous, or simply that one person you need to be, here’s what I do—I work hard for the next 10 years without looking my head up from my desk.
And I don’t spend time in mindless, trivial matters, and I don’t waste my mental energy with toxic people. And I don’t indulge in any activities that look good for me but are not, and I just work hard, work hard, work hard.
For the next 10 years.
I work hard.
I know that seems a lot, it even seems a lot for me, but it’s all worth it.
It’s all worth it. It’worth it, even when so many people in their twenties want to become successful millionaries, or sometimes just millionaires; and they feel like 10 years of all this hard work would take away both a part fo their lives and mostly a part of their youth.
I know, that’s agreed and that’s why I’m, of course, willing to make changes to my earlier formula for myself because even I don’t want to live in regrets. I want to enjoy my life just as much as I’m building it.
The Conclusion According to Me
You can’t spend all your youthful time with the thought of the end product in mind; you need to find thrill in the chase, the journey, you need to start loving the road that will lead you there, and if you love the road, you’ll enjoy walking on it.
That’s my formula for the successful mindset.
Enjoy life + enjoy journey = successful destination.
I’m determined to apply it on myself, and eager to see where it leads me to.
Now it’s time for you to decide your own ten years and how are you going to spend them?
And then make your own decision for yourself.
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