Ever been depressed as a writer?
Ever wondered how to overcome writer’s block and unleash the godly potential you know you have but just can’t get through to, how to be happier and more confident as a writer?
I’m guessing you might’ve sometime or the other worked on a book really hard only to find out that towards the end the storyline contained a plot hole. And I’m sure that you’ve had days when you’ve worked all day and night upto exhaustion fo finish the book, the article, the paper?
Bad news is that these things are hard to deal with and harder to recover from. Writer’s block, writer’s burnout, writer’s dilemma, all jutting out from the same roots.
Well, it’s no new fact that writers are frequently unhappy, because their minds are always preoccupied with so many different things all at once—whether it’s the rich descriptions carved until perfection, the unique details of the story, the correct structure with no plot holes, the character arcs, the readership, the author fanpage, the Amazon rankings, the book sales, the critics, et cetera.
The good news is, none of us is alone. All the hundreds of thousands of other writers out there go through the same depressed and burnt out state yearly or many times even monthly, and now all of them have just learnt to cope with it. At the same time, they’re trying to figure out how to get over writer’s block, get rid of the unhealthy and toxic feelings of not being able to perform well and before the deadline.
You don’t need to struggle any longer.
Here I’ve got this detailed article on how to be happy again as a writer when things look tough, how to overcome writer’s block and writer’s burnout, and this will really help all those amazing writers out there who’ve not yet discovered their true, godly potential.
Table of Contents
How To Be Happy (As Writers)?
# Be A Stress-Free Writer
I myself felt a lot stressed whenever I worried about my books and how I was going to finish writing them.
I think all the writers out there have this dream of becoming published and seeing their book up there in the best-selling list and just feeling the pride that came with it.
This desire makes many writers stressful, because writing is something that requires huge amount of patience and you can’t do it if you aren’t dedicated enough to the process too, and not solely to the outcome.
So one major thing all of us need to remember while working on any novel is to realise that it won’t be good if we’re too much confused and (stressed).
Don’t worry. You’re a writer. You always figure it out. Just keep writing.
# Be A Self-Pleasing Writer
So many writers out there do things for the audience (and it’s not wrong at all), but in order to please the people out there, in order to work according to society’s standards and interests, often, the writers forget to do the main thing this art taught them—do things for themselves.
Everyone begins writing in order to escape reality, to find a deep world which they can control, to tell their own unique story, to gather people who could understand who they truly are.
If an author doesn’t write for themselves, and instead focuses on what the audience likes, then even though the author might be a bestselling one, their main purpose is left incomplete.
That is why, every once in a while, when you sit down to write, do write for yourself. Do write the tropes you like, even if they aren’t popular. Do write the characters with whom you connect, even when others feel distant from them. Do make yourself proud again.
#Be A Regular Writer
A good swimmer swims a lot. A good runner runs a lot. A good scholar studies a lot.
Whatever people excel in, they do so because they do these things many, many times again and again. As they say, you shouldn’t fear a man who’s practiced 10,000 kicks. You should fear a man who’s practiced one kick 10,000 times.
So naturally, the conclusion I’m getting at is to write again and again. Write regularly. Write whenever, wherever you have time. Write meaningful things.
Just work up your writing muscles to make them work efficiently.
I love this theory of dedicating at least 10,000 hours to something before you achieve mastery at it. I’ve made it a goal of mine to write for at least 10,000 hours of my life, and words will flow smoothly. You’ll never have to think about how to say it, because you would’ve already practiced it many times before.
That’s what people do. Quitters quit. Writers write.
#When Life Looks Tough…
Writing always, writing continously, writing without a break, none of this means that you should pressurize yourself.
Go to number one of this list. Be a stress-free writer, please yourself with your writing.
Know the correct balance between when to write and when to read and when to just let it all go for some time. Writers always feel like they need to be in charge of their stories (which they are). They feel like their stories completely depend on them (which they do) but none of it means that writers should just keep on taking projects afte4 projects and working their heads off.
So, dear writers, when things look tough, and there’s too much on your plate, then allow yourself to take things slow and take rest along the way.
You’re not here to harm yourself with overwork or exhaustion. You’re not here to spend all days either writing or worrying about writing. If your arts giving you a hard time (it can be a sign of writer’s block or fatigue, both of which are hell lotta different and should be taken seriously), then take a break.
Do anything but writing. Watch movies, learn a new skill, adopt another hobby; just do anything but what brought you into this state. Writing is a mental activity, and requires a lot of exertion and thought-processes. If a writer indulges in too much work all at once, it’s definitely bound to take a toll on them.
Keep this in mind the next time you battle any such thing.
Waste your time for God’s sake. Some time later into it, your subconsious will beg you to start writing again as you’ll realise why you fell in love with the process in the first place. The recovery is always magical. It will be like a miracle, one which you don’t really believe in, but once you start doing, you don’t ever doubt it again.
Reading List for Dealing with Writer’s Block
If suppose, your written content doesn’t feel that attractive anymore, maybe it’s just that you need some exercises and some advice from popular authors who’ve done this and have gone through this all before.
When I didn’t write, I wanted to read about writing.
I wanted to read about what other authors had to say about this amazing craft. I wanted to read their own personal memoirs ahd of course, some of the great advice they had put up in their books.
In addition to this, I read my own favourite authors again and again to make their words become an indistinguishable part of myself.
Some of the best books to read during writer’s block are:
#Your Utmost Favourite Book/Author
What better book to read in dire times than the one which is your own personal favourite? What better person to follow than your own idolised, beloved author?
When you’re going through writer’s block, or writer’s fatigue, remember one thing most of all: reading others’ books is always a great remedy.
Just let go of your stresses and the plot holes and how the characters feel flat, and just remember to enjoy the process of consuming someone else’s book.
#Bird By Bird, by Anne Lamott
Amazing book. It does contain writing advice later on, but the best part of it according to me was the beginning where the author recounted her own details of being a writer’s daughter and how she herself grew fond of the art.
One amazing concept (after which the book was named) was when the author’s brother had once not been able to complete a school project on birds and was panicking on the deadline day because of it. Her father went to him then, on the kitchen table, and said soothingly, bird by bird. Take it bird by bird. Amazing.
This should be the advice for all the authors out there.
Even if it seems stressful, even if it seems like this book will never be finished, even if it seems like the plot structure or character arcs feel flat, it seems like there are thousands of other authors who are more deserving and that there are millions of other books that the readers will rather read—bird by bird, fellow writer, take it bird by bird.
#On Writing, by Stephen King
Stephen King is blunt in his criticism.
He plainly called all other writing book a huge load of —-. Yeah, whatever. I like that author anyway.
But what he said was partially true. I got many writing books but only liked a few. His book, On writing, was one of them, obviously. He actually just recounted the story of his younger years all throughout the beginning of the book.
But it was entertaining in its own way, getting to know such a fabulous and amazing author and what had motivated him to pursue this amazing carreer.
FURTHER READING:
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#How to Overcome Writer’s Block?
Remember always, that life may look grim and tough and intimidating, but the major thing writing has ever taught us is—how to escape.
I started writing to find an escape, to walk into a world I owned and could control. To make characters that would’ve felt great in real life and not just on paper.
So, whenever you feel like you can’t take it anymore, just go grab your pen and paper, or your computer, or your typewriter and become the Alice who escaped into wonderland. Even if it was all just a dream in the end, we all kinda know it wasn’t.
Of course it is happening inside your head, Harry, but why on earth should that mean that it is not real?
Albus Dumbledore
There’s a world inside your head. Do take it out and share it with the whole world, because if my idolised author wouldn’t have done that, then we wouldn’t have found out this world-renowned scarhead and his story.
#Take it Slow, Dear Writer.
As I write my book, 79, I feel like this will never be as good as the others out there that I hugely admire.
I know that’s self-depreciating, and I hate self-depreciation, (because it’s another form of self-sabotage) but sometimes I just can’t help but let that stupid thought enter my mind.
I know that I am what I think I am and what I want to be.
If I ever want to be as good as my favourite authors, I am going to be that. It all begins with trusting yourself and trusting the process.
If a book’s left unfinished, finish it for God’s sake. No art is no better than bad art. You can’t edit a blank page. You can’t learn without trying. The worst thing you can ever do as a writer is to start writing a book and then give up hope.
Keep the idea alive. If you can’t write it, give it away. Just make the ideas work.
You might think that your book will never be as good as your favourite book. But if you get around to finish your book at last, you’ll realise that it is maybe not yours, but someone else’s favourite book too.
Along the way, you’ll realise that no matter how hard you try, you won’t ever be perfect, you’ll just fall short of perfection. I ask you to forgive yourself for that. How to forgive yourself for not being perfect?
Also along the way, you’ll see that you are being extra hard on yourself. You’ll find yourself sacrificing sleep, food and entertainment to finish the draft, edit the book, perfect the page. Maybe you’ll ignore the needs of your body. If you ever need to recover from that, do explore right now how to learn to be kind to yourself.
Conclusion
Writers are stubborn. They think about changing the world. But it’s not them to change the world. It’s what they write.
If you are one of those ambitious, stubborn writers, and you want to change the world with your thinking, then…
If you are one of those soft-hearted, poetic, love-devouring writers, who write with a kind of nostalgia embedded in their pens, and you want to change the world with the words you speak, then…
…in any case, changing the world is a given. Crucial. Almost impossible.
But writers are stubborn. What are we if not stubborn for what we want? Accompany me now on my own discovery for the Formula for Changing the World.
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