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So you’ve finally realized that life is meant to be lived, not feared?

Learned that all the experiences you come across are meant to teach you something, not just leave you worse than you were?

And the thing is that you’ve always wanted to learn how to stop being afraid of everything all the damn time, how to be fearless, how to be unbothered.

Are you really afraid? Anxious? Imagining the worst?

Do you even realize how short life is? It passes by so quickly. Why would you even begin to worry about things that don’t matter too much?

In this post, you’ll learn how to be unbothered, unafraid, relentless in your pursuit of greatness, of the beautiful and fascinating days in the future that you’re meant to live. You’ll learn how to be fearless, live life with no regrets, be the most powerful self you can be.

How to Stop Being Afraid?

Imagine a person who’s always been afraid, soft-spoken, shying away from the spotlight, not knowing at all its what they’re meant for. Imagine them sitting in the corner, quiet, awkward, feeling themselves out of place. Imagine them not speaking for what’s right, for what they believe in, for what they know, not showing up for what they can do best.

Imagine them wasting away talent.

Imagine them not standing up for themselves, quietly enduring forever.

Now imagine another person: bold, courageous, loud, so loud. Creating a wave. And it’s not even necessary for them to be an extrovert to do that, to be that. They just need to always act.

Think. But think fast. And act faster.

Speak up your opinion. Be unbothered with what anyone else might be thinking about you, about why they’re laughing at you, being mean to you.

Be unbothered. Be so confident in yourself that no other opinion matters. Now imagine that person is you.

Here’s how this started. I got an email today, a short newsletter that had only one subject line that made me click on it (my email senders might want to know that one of the few emails they send that never get opened—come to me).

I’m so bad at keeping track of it that I’ve got some 2000 unopened emails that I’ve got to go through one day in the distant imaginable future when I’d not have to waste two hours of a day commuting to college. And I’d use them wisely to get done with the work I’m avoiding.

Anyway, back to the thing: the one subject line that was a definite click bait for me was: most things don’t matter that much.

They don’t.

Here’s the truth, here’s the truth you don’t want to hear, you know why? Because hearing it just makes you feel stupid for all those years you gave things so much importance as to lose your mind over it, and now when someone tells you that those things, they never really mattered that much, it hits you hard and bad.

You wanted things to matter, didn’t you? Because now you wouldn’t have anything else to worry about, to think about. Now you’d finally have to act, you’d have no other excuse to put it off.

And no one blames you for this, it’s just self-sabotage and most of us suffer from it.

So now my question to you, is simply this—why are you so afraid? Why are you playing it so safe?

## How to be unbothered with what goes on around you?

### Everyone is thinking about themselves.

Everyone’s got their own movie going on, where they’re the main character and everyone else is just occupying some insignificant position no one cares about.

They’re only just focusing on themselves, and that’s not a bad thing, because it allows you to make mistakes.

In the best case scenario, you’re going to live up to your own expectations and be happy. In the worst case scenario, people are just going to learn from your mistakes and again, make sure they don’t repeat it. Win-win.

The focus will get off you soon enough.

### Most things don’t matter that much.

I read this amazing quote somewhere, which said, embarrassment lasts for only a few moments. And life is made up of millions of moments.

Why would you let it all go to waste just because a few seconds didn’t pass perfectly? Are they gonna happen again? Not if you can help it, and hear me out, you always can.

Nothing’s out of your hands yet, you have a say, you can make decisions, you can trust the universe, you can wake up one day and start speaking positively about yourself and your life and decide that you’re not going to destroy yourself ever again.

So live your life, and live life with no regrets.

### Have a priority list.

Get some hard hitting truths through your head. Your time here is limited. You could either have this thought right now, or have mental peace and stability. There’s no use in suffering twice for something that might not even happen.

### Being unbothered doesn’t mean being unprepared.

You should be prepared. You should be doing your best. You should be doing everything in your power to perform your finest.

Suppose this, you’re like me, suppose you’re afraid of public speaking. In a typical unbothered, don’t-care way, you’d say that you don’t care what people think about you while you’re giving your speech. You’d say you’re so perfectly confident in yourself that other’s opinions don’t matter. While that’s a nice way to cope, it doesn’t work out for me.

If that could actually be the case, you wouldn’t be afraid of public speaking in the first place. I’m not asking you to be unbothered in the I don’t care if I mess it up way.

Some public speeches are disasters. You don’t want yours to be one among then.

What do you do to prevent it? You practice. Indisputably. That is the only way. You practice and practice and you keep putting yourself out there until you become immune to it, until it comes as naturally as anything else you’re good at, like, suppose, talking to a loved one. They don’t judge you, do they?

If you just put out the feeling that you’re being judged from all four directions, you’d actually end up doing great stuff effectively.

No one who matters is judging you in a disastrous way. Why? Because most of us are just too busy judging ourselves.

## How to stop being afraid of everything all the time?

Finally. The question I wanted to address. The question I wanted to know the answer of myself. How to stop being afraid of everything all the damn time and instead go live my life because it’s the only one we get here on this beautiful planet among these beautiful people and at the end of the day, despite everything, every victory and failure, every peaceful moment and distressing day, we should be pretty thankful for all of this—that we managed to survive.

Go through this list. Understand why you’re afraid. Understand that it’s okay being afraid. And if still something bothers you, eliminate it.

• Don’t focus on other people’s opinion regarding yourself.
• You are accountable to yourself, no one else.
• In 5 years, the only person you’ll have to face is yourself and your closed ones. How do you want to face them?
• You can’t think clearly when you are scared or anxious. Feeling these emotions might be a waste of time when you’ve got tons of other things to do.
• Practice yoga, breathing exercises, meditation.
• Talk about your fears or journal about it.
• Anxiety isn’t helpful. It’s just your subconscious mind trying to hold you back from an uncomfortable situation, the same way a friend would say, whoa, hey, you’re treading in unfamiliar situation. Be careful, babe.
• Don’t try to be perfect, it will get you nowhere.
• Don’t waste years of your life waiting to act in the moment when you’ll stop being afraid. Go after it right now.
• Fear makes you feel alive. It reminds you that you are human, with a human conscience and human mind. So a little bit of fear is okay, all okay until it becomes paralyzing and starts holding you back.
• You need to remember though, that fear isn’t harmful. You can’t have someone teach you how to be fearless, how to stop being afraid of everything. You don’t need to be afraid of fear to begin with. It’s not a sign of weakness. Everyone feels fear in life some day or the other. But letting your fear control you and stop you, is a failure on your part. You shouldn’t let fear dictate your next steps.
• Run towards your fear… it runs away.

So be afraid.

It’s natural to be afraid. It is a pretty scary world out there. Some people might judge you for being you, fear might take a hold of you in new unfamiliar surroundings, among unknown people, doing things you haven’t done before. The necessary part would be to feel fear and do it anyway.

## Why are you afraid?

Why are you afraid people will leave you? The right people will come back.

Why are you afraid what anyone’s gonna think? Their opinion doesn’t define your reality.

Why are you afraid of what’s gonna happen when it’s within your hands to change it?

Why are you afraid of the future? It’s gonna come when it is, but overthinking is like suffering twice.

Why not just think positive for right now?

What if it all goes right?

Why are you afraid of anything when you can do almost anything in your power to prevent it?

Seriously, though, why are you afraid?

Why not just let life happen to you?